Recently I heard something about being authentic, but better, from two separate speakers.
I heard the first explanation from someone speaking at a coaching conference. She was talking about the challenge many of our clients have when they discover they could get a different result when they approach a circumstance differently, but then worry about whether they are being inauthentic.
She drew some stick figures to illustrate, so I’m including some of my own here.
- The first one represents us as we see ourselves authentically.
- The second one is what we think happens when we do something differently. We worry that we are losing ourselves. See how I erased the arm.
- The third picture is what really happens. We grow additional arms.
Now those additional arms may seem a bit creepy, but it resonated with me. I can see how I can still be me, still be authentic, but with more tools.
Then, a couple of weeks later I heard a speaker talking about how we wear different clothes for different circumstances. We have clothes we wear when we are speaking to a crowd, or having our picture taken. We have others we wear when we attend a formal party. Well, maybe you have those. I do have different clothes I wear to take my dogs to the dog park. I wear different clothes for different weather. I wear other clothes for my regular workdays. I know I behave slightly different when I have on different clothes, but I’m still authentically me.
So if you can figure out how you need to think, feel and act to get a different result from the same circumstance, isn’t that just like having a new tool, or wearing different clothes?
Authentic, but BETTER.