“No Judgement” is something that most of us think we practice.
We say it laughingly to others.
We often do practice this much better for others than for ourselves. This is a post about Re-Learning.
I went through a surprisingly stressful time this year. The part that is surprising is that I think if I wasn’t a coach, I wouldn’t have had such negative self-judgement. I wasn’t using my coaching skills on myself. Rather, I was using them against myself.
I was telling myself that since I have all the coaching tools, and know how to explore my thoughts and find ones that work for me, I shouldn’t have been feeling so betrayed, angry, annoyed, frustrated.
If I was coaching me, I would have seen the “should”. I would have also seen that I wasn’t really exploring my thoughts.
Instead, I kept thinking that I was inauthentic. What kind of coach can’t manage their thoughts?
Well, this one.
Once I realized that I was staying in all this churn mostly because of negative self-judgement, I could also see interfering with my ability to progress in many other areas.
Self-awareness is the first step and has brought so much relief.
Now I’m practicing curiosity.
More on that in another post.